New dating rules
One of the first times Foltz took the initiative and asked a guy out, it went really well. “It ended up being one of the most romantic experiences of my life.” She believes making the first move gave the man a helpful confidence boost.
“Sometimes guys are afraid, too.” And with the advent of dating apps such as Bumble, which require women to make the first move to avoid online harassment, it’s not only common for women to initiate a date, it’s increasingly expected.
With Facebook, Twitter and some minor sleuthing, anyone can be tracked down.
“If you sleep with someone, there’s a good chance you’ll be able to contact them again [or vice versa],” says Manley.
Foltz, 29, says it can be tricky, but that gender norms are still at play.
The advice used to be to avoid talk of politics and former relationships on early dates, but now many favor putting it all out there from the beginning.“[But] they’re not a great way to go deep or get to know the person’s personality.” Chris Donahue, a 28-year-old writer from Brooklyn, believes men should still foot the bill, at least on the first date.“It opens up a kind of flirty dialogue of like, ‘You can pay for the next date,’ ” he says.“A week later, maybe you’d be like, ‘I should reach out.’” Gone are the days when dates had to be an elaborate night out at a buzzy restaurant or club.Now, watching a few episodes of “Westworld” is considered a hot date. “Even if you don’t have sex while you watch, you can finish a show and have something to talk about.” A survey found that millennials are 270 percent more likely than other generations to be turned on if their match watches the same TV show.