Dating advice for men over 50 years old
It is fine to also date hoping to marry or remarry, but my point is to not make that the focal point of dating, right away.People in their 50’s have been through so much more loss, death, birth, career changes, and so on, that I have noticed the over-50 set is positioned perfectly to enjoy every moment that comes their way, when possible.This attitude that women should be younger than the man they are with, alongside being ableist, ageist, and fatphobic, is rooted in the underlying assumption still lingering for men my age that part of the reason why women are here on earth is for a man’s pleasure — so she needs to fit into his standards of desirability.Whatever you are doing, a woman your age can do it just as well.
In addition, the very concept of what was attractive was also drilled into our young brains, and unfortunately, what was considered attractive was informed by racism, ableism, ageism, and cis-gendered heterosexuality.So, if you are a straight, cis man over 50 interested in dating women, here are some critical feminist don’ts for you.And since I am mostly heterosexual and know it more thoroughly than queerness, I will focus on that type of dating here.I notice that lots of people who were married for maybe 10 years or less seem to say…we got married early, found out it didn’t work, and then later remarried and have found long term, happiness with their next partner/spouse. ) increase the number of potential men for you, but I think you will see that age is only a number, unlike it was, say if you were 30, dating a 20 year old. Go on dates, but don’t force the serious relationship. What I also notice is that I don’t seem to hear any/as many happy stories about people (like me) who were married 20-25 years, got divorced, and then found happiness/ marriage, etc again. I have always believed that 50’s is in fact, no-man’s land, whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed, the reason being that you aren’t really young anymore, but you aren’t old either. I am me and all I can do is live life to my potential. The thing that bothered me most about your email is this part: You write: “found happiness/marriage etc.