Benefits of dating in college
(Personally, I think dating is painful enough without having to stick a needle in your arm, but who am I to judge?) So don’t be surprised if you get hit on multiple times while you’re trying to do a good deed by cleaning up your local park.Still, as sex therapist Ian Kerner tells Men’s Fitness readers, you should assume that your date is doing the same thing to you. W, if you’re uncomfortable being by yourself when you aren’t dating anyone, you’re still going to feel alone when you have a partner.One of the worst reasons to start a relationship is because you’re afraid of ending up alone. Before you go frantically searching for a boyfriend or girlfriend, Orlov says you should “know that you can take care of yourself emotionally [and] financially.”Dating like a grown-up means knowing how to set boundaries between you and the people you’re seeing.Consider taking a “dating hiatus” or at least scaling back the romantic activity and focusing on you for a while.So you’ve hit the number at which your mom got married and your grandma already had two kids. Ladies (and gents) are getting married later and later, for a variety of reasons.
In college, it’s kind of tricky to date or hook up with multiple people at one time — odds are pretty high you’ll run into one of your flames while making out with another one at a party. As long as you haven’t agreed to see anyone exclusively, it’s totally OK to date around (this is apparently known as “multi-dating”).
After college, it might seem like letting someone buy you a drink and trying to chat over blasting music is the only way to find potential dates.
And while this endeavor can be a lot of fun and a great tool to blow off the stress of the work week, research suggests these meet-ups rarely lead to anything serious.
In fact, if the thought of flying solo frightens you, no partner is going to be able to fulfill you emotionally. As a single college graduate, you probably already have a well-rounded life — a job you love (or at least need), a circle of close friends, and maybe an exercise routine that keeps you healthy.
According to psychotherapist, relationship expert, and author Julie Orlov, M. If you start noticing that you’re frequently ditching friends, falling behind at the office, or skipping workouts to make time for dating, something’s wrong.