American dating a british man
And it does put the onus on us ladies to take the initiative ourselves! “In my experience, British men are eve less likely to ask you out than American ones, so take the initiative to invite them out.They’ll be extremely relieved and impressed, believe me!They get grad jobs, they grind three jobs at the same time, they take 10 degrees and fly to the moon before the age of 24.English people take 5 years out in Cambodia just to figure out that they want to pursue a career in woodwork.” – Charlie (London, UK)1 – Remember to use your inside voice…When chatting up a British guy, chances are your normal voice is about 10 octaves louder than he’s used to, so you might scare him a little.After all, it seems like American women and British men go hand in hand.As someone I recently interviewed put it, “I don’t know if I could move back to America and date there again.It’s the British equivalent to ‘Do you want to come up and see the place?
Of course, with the number of young Americans in England steadily rising, the number of British people dating Americans has risen accordingly.
However, since living in New York, I’ve had the opportunity to meet many different people from various backgrounds and it’s become clear that there are definite cultural norms specific to European men versus American men (especially New Yorkers).
I’m not to judge that one is better than the other, and mind you, my observations are based on my own experiences as well as a group of women I’ve interviewed in the last two years.
We tend to be a little more assertive and straightforward over in America, so it takes a bit of getting used to the fact that most British men are painfully polite and, no matter how many ‘come hither and ask for my damn number’ looks you shoot them, they simply will not approach you.
Though your presumed shyness and hesitancy can be frustrating, I will say it’s preferable to some American guys who invade your personal space before they’ve even asked your name.